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Size Matters...The Art of buying Erotic Lingerie

by Bella Nixon

Over the last Bank holiday I decided to give my e-mail inbox a spring clean and whilst scanning through old e-mails I noticed the single biggest concern for men when buying lingerie for their partner is size - and its not his own size that is the concern ladies! After reading around this subject a bit more I found lots of references to this issue, including an FHM online article about what makes buying lingerie for your partner a minefield, and top of the list? You guessed it SIZE! A sample of our own customer comments further proves my point...

“If I get something too small she will be upset and feel fat.”
"If I get the wrong size she'll think I've purchased for someone else!"
"Too big and she'll think I assumed she is larger than she is and be offended"
"Not fitting is going to ruin our special moment."
"This is for our honeymoon, if I get it wrong I can’t exchange it”

Anon 2014

You'll be glad to know all our puzzled customers sizing issues were solved, but from this it is easy to understand why getting it right really is important! Time and thought are the key words here because you want your partner to feel a million dollars. We know time is something we are all often short of, so hopefully a quick read of my blog will arm you with the know how to get things right first time. Failing that, you can contact the FlirtyorDirty sales team for information and lingerie suggestions.

FlirtyorDirty specialise in Erotic Lingerie. We don't do everyday wear lingerie; we love that too, but our passion is well PASSION! You may start off thinking PANIC! but I can assure you buying erotic lingerie is actually simpler than buying her everyday lingerie! Don't play it safe i.e don't buy something she will wear everyday but keep in mind the type of lingerie you both want. We understand our customers concerns about size so for my quick guide to Flirtyordirty erotic lingerie read on.

Clothing Size: The single most important thing to find out is her UK clothing size, for both tops and trousers. Check things she has recently worn and fit her well, trousers are preferable to jeans as the sizing is simpler. If there's a difference in her UK size from top to bottom of more than one UK size, have a look at my "Bodyshape Collection" below and check out my style advice and recommendations for a perfect fit.

Bra Cup size: (the letter) unlike 'everyday' lingerie this is not essential to know, but useful especially if your partner is very big busted compared to her clothing size. If you want a style with underwire on the bust this will be in the description of the product on the FlirtyorDirty website, you may wish to see quick advice in the Bodyshape section below.

Brands - How the sizes measure up

Anais Apparel - Anais is made really well and most styles have the choice to make some adjustment. Comes up on the small side, so we recommend choosing the next size up from her UK clothing size, unless you know for sure that she fits at the smaller end of the UK size range.

Obsessive - A great brand to choose if you are concerned about getting size right. Obsessive lingerie is made of elastic textiles, some have lacings that allow you to adjust it or other similar details to make adjustment. In our experience their clever designs mean in most cases the lingerie fits perfectly, and items are rarely returned due to bad fit. We keep two main sizes in stock, S/M (UK 8-12) and L/XL (UK 14-18) By having only two main categories on size means getting the size right is a lot simpler. Use her UK clothing size as your guide.

Lola Luna - Accurate on sizing so choose the size that matches your partners UK size. If you want bigger than UK16 choose the Zambie closed as this has a tie side.

LivCo Corsetti - In our experience LivCo lingerie is accurately sized Small/Medium for UK 8-10 and Large/XL UK 12-14. Other lingerie such as body stockings or fishnet dress come as one size fits many (UK 8-16). These styles make a great choice when you are not sure of the exact size you want.

Donna Flor - Swimwear sizes are accurate in our opinion, most of the bikini bottoms are non adjustable except Sauipie that has tie sides. All the bikini tops have adjustable ties at the neck and back.

Bodyshape - Style Advice for different body shapes

Loretta SetSame size top and bottom:

Most styles will fit easily but I recommend lingerie sets such as Loretta from LivCo Corsetti or Hope bra and knicker set by Anais. Of couse there are many other styles you could try like our Micro bikinis or choose from our Body stockings or Chemise and nightwear.
Shame Black By AnaisBigger on top than bottom by one size:
Consider styles that adjust at the top or bottom with elastic, clasps or corset style lacing,under wiring. If the lingerie item adjusts on the bottom choose her UK size that fits her top, and if the top adjusts choose the UK size that fits her bottom. I recommend styles such as - Shame, Aurea, Agostina, Kalia.

Charms ChemiseBigger bottom than top by one size:

Consider styles that enhance the bust and slim the hips. Choose styles that adjust at the top or bottom with elastic, clasps or corset style lacing. If the lingerie item adjusts on the bottom choose her UK size that fits her top, and if the top adjusts choose the UK size that fits her bottom. I recommend nightwear such as Charms chemise by Obsessive, Isida babydoll and Kissy set by Anais or Carolyn half cup bra and knickers available as a 2 or 3 piece set.

CatrionaMore than one size different between top and bottom:

Styles that balance by either enhancing the hips or the bust are best and I recommend Flores Chemise, Catriona from our body stocking range or a fishnet dress.

Punish Me PantyMore than two sizes different between top and bottom:

I recommend you play it safe as you may find with sets that one part fits and the other doesn't, you can avoid this problem by choosing g-strings or sexy knickers and match them with pasties or garter stockings.

Agostina from LivCo CorsettiBig busted:

Choose styles with under wiring if bust is up to DD, Underwired styles include Agostina from Livco Corsetti, Julia babydoll by Obsessive or from Anais Apparel Shame bra and knicker set (available in black or white) or Splash chemise & string set. Any bigger than DD I recommend you choose a non wired item such as Flores or choose from our body stockings and fishnet dresses.

F204 White BodystockingTall:

This will mean overall the look will be shorter on baby dolls, dresses, chemise, I recommend considering styles with adjustable shoulder straps, For over 5'8" I recommend choosing body stockings like F204 from Obsessive in one of the larger sizes even if your partner is a UK size 10.

Extreme BikiniPetite:

We stock some gorgeous items in extra small (UK size 8 or less) - my recommendations are, Doris, Chloe, Hope, Esme also Lola luna micro g-strings, Donna Flor micro bikinis are great for ladies who are petite.

Final reassurance - If you find the lingerie you chose is not right, we accept no quibble returns for exchange or full refund, as long as the lingerie is returned in pristine condition and within two weeks of receipt. If you prefer to exchange we offer after sales care and advice if required just e-mail me. Please see our terms and conditions for full refund policy.